ARP Moly Lube - where to buy

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Ok, from the ARP website, its ok to use oil in place of moly lube, you just need to tighten it differently....

I have a head that I need to bolt up to a block for a while and I have arp headstuds

unfortunately the washers are no where to be found? can I get some hard washers from ace? (same footprint as the nut)

and what is the foot poundage that I have to tighten them to? with 30w oil?