Would tightening up the PP a bit over torque spec cause an engagement issue? That's what I'm leaning towards right now. We couldnt get a hold of a torque wrench that would go to 10lbs (one I got from Napa loan-a-tool went from 30-250lbs). I kinda guestimated the lbs on it (one hand-tightening it with a ratchet, not trying to force it any tighter). I dont wanna mess up a good tranny, so I'm not gonna drive it anymore and risk grinding the gears. It's been a couple yrs since I've had a normal shifting tranny in my car

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Oh yeah, I'm running Royal Purple manual tranny fluid and the pivot ball is the same that Aaron (turbotalon1g) was using, so it should still be fine.
And another thing that I should add about first gear is that there's no power at all when engaging. I can full throttle it in first and it wont have the get up and go power, just struggle engaging. I'll be gone for the weekend for a tournament, so I'll come back on Sunday/Monday and probably take the tranny off and re-torque the PP to the right spec.