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Ok so here we go. I've been with my girl for 2 years now. I'm 18 and she's 17 and a half. We're in love and hope to get married soon. We spend every wakign moment together. He parents over 60 days ago moved her to Florida and put a restraining order on me because they felt she was too emotionally attached. It was a 105 day restraining order and I have 38 days left. But I recently got arrested for supposibly having contact and have a court date in 2 months. So here I am, I haven't seen her or talked to her in 67 days, but still lvoe her and hope it works out in 38 more. But I'm not sure what to do. What would you guys do if you were in my situation?

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Damn thats one tough situation.. I would say wait it out till you can have legal contact and then see how things go from there. You are really young and it may seem like love but I would slow things waaay down. Been there done that and learned alot along the way. Im guessing this is both of your first serious relationships? People do change alot with time, and late teens and early 20s are the most critical. My opinion is to slow things down, if you both feel that strongly about each other then it will work out even if you cant see/talk to each other.

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Forget about it. You're too young to be deciding who you're going to marry. Want me to tell you what happened of all the people I know who got married shortly after high school? No, you don't.

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How do you know she still feels that way about you if you haven't talked to her for ever? I would wait it out and try to settle things with her parents after your time is up. You dont want the girls parents to hate you. I gotta laugh a little bit though, I've never seen a topic like this come up on any car forum haha. Good luck

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I know she does, cause She's had her freinds send me messages through myspace and AIM. I jsut received another one today.

"Hey babe, Im coming home in 2 weeks i am so sorry for everything I am NOT going to bleave you and i am NOT moving on. I love you to death and my love has never been so strong for you before. I am still all yours. We will see each other soon. Dont believe the 2 years shit Its not true i hvent been able to call you because my aunt wont let me anmoyre Will i see you on the 21st? Willy ou stay with me? Dont leave me beacause i dont plan on leaing you. EVER! I midd you and love you to death my love. Ill be home soon I have the tickets to prove it. No matter how long we have to wait for each other i will wait for you I will remain loyal and commited. I hope you will stay wiht me. My biggest fear and worry is you leaving. I want to be with you forever Dont give up babe Stay Strong I havent gone out with friends and dont plan to so dont worry what im doing I am just worried about you. I feel like you funna dump me soon and say fuck this shit and go find someone else I am begging you to stay strong and stay with me baby Dont leave me i will be 18 in no time just like yesterday we were plauying football and i cheerleading. lol lets stick through this together lets prove my parents we were meant for each please forgive me for this I have never hated myself so much before inm so sorry. Love you and miss you baby.
We will over come this battle...together! Love Sophia"

The thing is her parents loved me, then this all of a sudden happened. I've been in a semi serious relationship before, and we're not rushing into any marriage idea, I want to wait until im financially steady and shit first. I'm sorry for bringing it to the car forums, im just really struggling and curious what other people what have done in my situation.

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Absolutely step back and wait. Even if everything is and will stay exactly as you said between the both of you you need to wait. It would be foolish to push the restraining order. After it expires I'd still keep things limited. If you both still feel the same way when she turns 18 then you can work something out. Just use your head at least as much as your heart.

Oh yeah, don't skip out on the education thing either. Seriously, too many people skip out on higher ed, because they have convoluded notions of ever-lasting love. If it's really that strong it will last a lifetime so there is no need to rush anything.

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No, way am I skippin gmy education. I already have taken 2 years of pre college automotive and have been accepted to one of the top 5 tech schools for automotive and high engine performance.

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The best advice i can give you is wait until you are at least 23.
The reasons.
A) A wedding night is no night to be sober.
B) Girls have two major changes when they are young. First is when they become a woman and their body changes and starts to bleed because they are evil. And the second is when they turn 21, Some girls get hit hard and others not so much (much like a period). Give them two years to get the partying out of their system and if you are still together, fuck it marry the girl.

What caused the bad blood between the girls parents and you?
I have never had a problem with any girls parents. Except one, but i kinda deserved that, Little girls are liars (about their ages). SPEAKING of which, are you sure i mean SURE she is actually 17? just remember 16 will get you 20

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Haha. Actually, as much as I hate to admit it, I was kinda in a similar place you are. Me and my ex broke up and things were really hard for both of us. Long story short, life was tough for both of us, we decided to take a break and not talk for a while and her dad stricktly inforced this. I just had to take it and like it and stick it out. She has now changed in a few ways: she's kinda bitchy and shes got huge boobs. Moral of the story, WAIT it out and don't rush anything. Your 18 how do you know what "real love" is?

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Yes, I am positive that she's 17. She does not party, drink or do drugs, and is strongly against them so i think i won't have to worry about that. I'm not sure about the bad blood honestly. Her parents loved me a week before, I had taken care of there house while her father was in Iraq, and continued to do so. The night before her family had taken us out to dinner and a movie and her father said how much he appreicated his daughter have a giuy like me. Then the mother decided she was getting to emotionally attached and did this. Even in the court room she had nothing but good things to say about me.

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Couple things to point out here, and I'll be quick about it.

1. You are both way too young, there is already a mix of hatefull parents, and there is already a run in with the law. Wake up, and take the next few years to live a little (with or without her).

2. You're asking a car site where we only know you through 10 posts (your current count as of my post). Seriously, if you have to come here and get advice like this you have no clue. Sorry, but it's true.

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I did not come here for the advice, not did I ask for advice. I was jsut curious what others would do if they were in a situation like this. I already know what path I'm takign reguardless of what anyone here says.

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You're title asked for advice, and if you don't understand that concept, you have a whole new problem to deal with. And if you already know what you are doing, why ask?

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No my title does not say I need advice. My title says would would you DO in this situation NOT I need an opinion what to do, your reading it the wrong way and thats fine.

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I was in a similar situation at close to your age too. I am guessing her parents found out you were having sex? That is what happened to me. Don't push things, sit back and take it slow. If she really is the one for you, then your love will last forever and you have plenty of time.

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OK! So my friend and I convened in my small dorm room (dog like kennel of a room) and this is what we came up with:

It is foolish to break a restraining order especially when you are 18 and it will be on your record forever. Don’t ever fuck with the law, unless you are street racing hehe. You will do her no good if you are in jail (I don’t really know what happens if you violate an order, but any ways) and it will just give her parents another excuse for her not to be with you. Respect her parents wishes, even though they seem a little messed up right now, don’t be ageist.

Don’t rush into marriage. I’m 18 and am in a committed relationship, but its foolish to get married so young. I see some disillusionment in you because you want to get married so young. If you are truly in love timing does not matter. Wait until you are independent, have move out and live by yourself for a few year and have finished school and have a secured job. You need to experience adulthood by yourself before sharing your life with others. This is only to protect you from simply a burn out form a lack of coping skills. Marriage requires a level of maturity that will only come with time, wisdom, patience and evaluation of oneself.

Another thing is no matter how much you don’t want it to; your relationship is going to change from this situation. Are you still dealing with infatuation? You need to mature your relationship to a committed relationship, consummate love, realistic ambitions and a pragmatic relationship. Her parents are judging your relationship as naive behavior. This is not intended to be demonstrative towards you, but it is simply the stage you are in.

Take the last 38 days to reflective upon yourself and your girlfriend and where your love comes from; why you love her. It is wise to understand superficiality in your relationship and understand that this is only because of your age.

I am not saying that you can not continue your relationship with her, I hope for the best for both of you as individuals. I am offering you the advice of my friend and I so you can acquire another point of view from two fucking amazing, colligate young woman (one of whom drives a freakin’ hot car hehe).

But really think about it…


(Sorry for the weird words but this is from psychology and nursing major point of view…)

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Pretty sure Jet hit it on the head, she probably told her parents you were "that" serious and they didnt so much like that.

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Bingo.

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The path you take should be waiting it out alittle longer. I agree waiting until she is in her mid twentys. I am not saying you should not talk to her. Nor ignore her after she turns 18. I am all for staying together. But what I am saying is don't run off and get marryed at a short age. Oh and make sure you have a good job before you tie the knot. But I think you already thinking of that. Good luck with it all. And don't screw it up.

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I've been in a similar situation. Perhaps some of you (hughes) remember Kristina, my ex? Her rents hated me, for no apparent reason. After a few months, I said fuck it. You really aren't worth the trouble, headaches, or pain. I can say I think i've moved on to a better place in life now, and am happy. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Who knows, perhaps you'll land a hot chick with rich rents, and she's into cars too!

-A. Swift

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Are you talking about me! hehe...


...but he is right, there are many girls out there

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Yeah I know there's plenty of girls out there, but I really am not willing to give up yet. The way I look at it, I've invested 2 years, I've waited almost 70 days, so I'm obligated to atleast wait the last 38 and see what happens, who knows maybe something drastic will happen and things will go back to normal, (im not getting my hopes up) But I'm atleast going to give it a shot, if not i'll go back to exploring free agency haha. Ohh and my gf is into cars haha she has a GS-t ;-) she loves cars about as much as I do.

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Do what I did, but a gsx and spend all your time and money on it and you will soon forget about her :)

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yeah well she should have gotten a GSX...haha jk, i just said that bc i just got mine.



I do think you should wait anothing 38 days and then see where you two are at. Really, think about what my friend and i said before...

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This thread reminds me of something id see on 7th heaven or boy meets world.

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haha so true, i just like some girl drama on here every now and then lol. This situtation is so D-Phil...whom is not even a dr, he is just as messed up as those on his show...

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You've spent 2 of your 18 years on this planet with on this girl and you think it's a big deal? Get over yourself, kid. There are bigger and better things you should be doing instead of worrying that your high school crush is going to come back to you. Maybe you shouldn't have gotten a restraining order put on you in the first place if being with her is such a big deal.

And yes, you did ask for advice. Look at your title: "What would you do...". That's a question asking for an answer, and we're giving it to you. If you have such a problem with us giving you sound advice then you shouldn't have posted this thread in the first place. I will guarantee that most people who posted in this thread are much older than you as well.

Bottom line: The truth hurts.

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meh, to each there own is my motto :)

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Wait for it to be okay to contact her. Good luck and don't make yourself believe she is everything. There are other things in life that are more important right now for you. However, I do hope it works out for the best for you and her.

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Your honesty is fucking awesome! During your college years you're going to change in ways you can't even imagine yet, settling for the high school sweetheart is a mistake most of the time. I know you'll disagree with me...but most of us have been there and know what really happens once we accept reality. If a girl's parents don't like you thats yet another thing putting you at a huge disadvantage.

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Agreed times 2

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I can say it could happen that you could end up together forever. My rents started dating when they were 12 and and are still together today so it is possibal that it gould happen. I have been in a few long term's before 2+years and they did not pan out you just have to get over it and move on I was that young when I was in them also. Now that I am 27 and found the right girl we are getting married in july. But she is done with her schooling to be a cop and I have been done for a while with 3 schools, autobody,car audio,animation. You just need to wait and see what happens dont piss of her rents or you could be in a bad spot. Like one of my old team mates he was 16 and she was 15 and dad found out and now he is a sex offened for life. Dont do something stupied to fuck it all up and be in jail or worse

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My advice... Go take a trip to the Phillipines. You'll be over her in no time.

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...and bring us with you!

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^^ LOL Im down!

The general consensus as to what "we would do" in your situation, is to back off and slow things down.

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Umm, Brandon needs a new job as a travel agent! :D THis guy needs to see that one special video.

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There's a vid? Post it in the proper section please.

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Already is posted.

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I don't understand why are you are flying off the handle or being such a prick. Your entitled to your opinion and that's cool. You think I don't know we won't work out, I think it's about a 2% chance, But I've come this far so it would be idiotic not to wait a mere 38 more days and give it a chance again. Atleast I'm not some little teenage punk who runs around with his dick in his hand fucking every girl that walks right Matt? Think about it that way before you start being a dickhead. Oh and your right, I just went up to her parents like, oh please put a restraining order on me. They put it on me cause they thought she was too emotionally attached, and her father still tlaks to me once a week, so don't try and make this seem like I did something drastic to deserve it.

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Will someone please inform this kid of my age? :news: