People That Moved Out

[Enes]

Ok, i have a friend that is desperately trying to get out of her parents' home...

She just turned 18, and is going to school, parents gave her a crap car but it runs, and are paying for all bills and school, however they are strict..

She wants her freedom but the only way is if she moves out..

I've been trying to tell her that she should stay with her parents.. that she is still a kid, even tho not by law she is an adult now.



so on to my reall question... The people that moved out from under their parents protection when they were 18 what have you run into that you didn't totaly expect what made you wish that you stayed at home..???


-E

[AJ]

Bills! But the trade for freedom kicked ass! Not that I live with Jana I am back to have rules. LOL

[At-Least-It's-An-Evo]

Umm........... Filthy ass roomates and bills up the ass with a f*cked up lease til May... especially if you really didn't wanna sign the lease in the first place and then thinking you had enough money to pay for everything then little crap with the law and whatnot issues come up costing you fortunes :rant: . I appreciate my house ALOT more now that I realized how "free" everything can be when you're at home too, just gotta loosen your parents up little by little and soon you can be as free as if you weren't living under their roof :cheers: :cheers: :cheers: Well, if she lives in a city where there is actually a job market also, she should be fine.

[Shane@DBPerformance]

Nothing, but I had a job. I also got the added benefit of them not trying to "borrow" money from me all the time and making me pay rent to live with them. I also lived in the city and didn't have a car, so that wasn't a possible problem area.

[Enes]

see the thing is they never had her pay rent, or cell phone bills, or car insurance..

[AJ]

Plain and simple, does she had a good job that could pay the rent, bills, and all the other shit that comes with living on her own.

[Enes]

nope. she barely makes $500 / month, but her boyfriend's parents are "pretending" that they would take care of her and give her comfort in their house....

What she doesn't realise is that they might do that but only for so long..

-E

[Jakey]

I hope that she chooses to stay, you can't beat having your bills paid and a car provided, even if it is a POS.

[ltdpower]

My mom ended all rules when I started paying rent at 16. So I really don't have a problem with living at home, I'm just trying to get a better job right now so I can buy a house, I have the down payment in the bank already waiting for me.

What too many dumb kids don't realize is when you move out, you are responsible for everything. Furniture, food, phone, all the little stuff. It might come as a shock to some, but toilet paper isn't free! However I don't believe parents should be so strict, I had almost no rules as a child and all my friends had curfues and rules and so on. But I turned out as a well rounded person and they all still fight with their parents over money they get for free, the car they bought for them, and insurance. Life is so much simpler when you are independent... Ok I'm done.

[MATCHBX]

I can see the temptation of moving out. However, for the few years that she would be there to get through school and find a really good job, it's well worth putting up with a little crap. She could agree to pay them a small amount of rent to help them loosen up on her. That way she can learn the value of paying bills. Maybe they could even agree to put that money into a savings account for her that she couldn't touch until she finishes college. Then she would have a jump start into a new life outside of her parents walls.

I don't know her personally, but I've noticed alot of people that were given everything when they were young, don't tend to care as much about what they have. They don't know the value of a dollar because they never had to truly earn it. I've seen some rich kids from my old high school that got brand new cars while they were in school, crash them, and get another brand new one from their parents. I know that I'm generalizing here, but I am not directing it at any particular person here. It just bugs me when i see that. We had to scrimp and save for everything that we had.

Bottom line, show the parents some grown up financial responsibility and they should show some respect and loosen the rules. Hang in there for a few years and it will be worth it.